Monday, December 6, 2010

Phillips 2010 Wrapup




I don’t even know where to begin….I realized today when I checked my blog that I had not written in 2 months. I want to do this little blog justice and I want it to be a place where Liam can look back and see where he comes from and how he’s grown.
I have allowed time and stress and so many other factors take away from this outlet that I love so much so I’ve decided it’s my goal going into 2011 to really dive in and make it my hobby. Being a full time wife and mommy doesn’t allow for many hobbies but this is one I love and I don’t want to lose the passion I have for writing and getting my thoughts on paper. It has been quite a year. A year filled with ups and downs, joys and sadness, hardship and triumphs. All the while I have stuck to one truth…My Lord is watching us thru it all. I have become a stronger believer in my Savior than ever before in this year alone. Even more so in the past 6 months than any other time in my life. Many of my readers and even close friends and family don’t realize exactly where we’ve been or what has been happening in our little family. So I want to use this long winded journal post to fill everyone in.

2010 has been the best year of our lives. 2010 has been the hardest year of our lives.
January-I was 7th months pregnant with a sick husband in the hospital and trying to stay afloat at work. That basically sums up the start of the year.
February-We moved to our new home….our awesome new home with the help of our amazing small group and were more enveloped in Elevation church than ever.
March-We had a baby shower, I was hugely pregnant and as we anxiously awaited his arrival, I was getting sick…almost pre-eclamptic, I was put on bedrest for a month and didn’t return to work for 4 months. Bedrest and sleepless nights can lead to some strange places mentally. This was the start of the most joyous and most sad time ever. This began the most reflective, thought producing time I’ve ever endured. And it was the best thing that has ever happened to me…..even though in its midst I couldn’t see it.
April-Our son was born. William Brafman Phillips. All 8lbs of him. Perfect. Beautiful. The epitome of God’s love pouring out all at once. He was born on Friday, April 16th after 12 hours of labor at Presbyterian hospital in Charlotte, NC at 6:49 in the evening. He was born to a room filled with the sounds of Dave Matthews Band. The only people for a long while that he heard or saw were Adam and I and it was perfect. Our little family-the start of our next journey. The start of our new life. Overwhelming joy. Happy Tears.
May-August were truly a complete blur…I was home on maternity leave….I honestly hardly remember this part of the year. I was overjoyed and sad all at once. I didn’t know why. I was both tired and energetic. I was an emotional, hormonal mess even in the midst of the happiest time of my life. I felt joy and I felt deep heartfelt aching. We were just trying to stay afloat-a new schedule, a new baby, a new life, a new balance of responsibility. My husband truly became my hero during this period. He is now hands down the strongest, most generous, God given gift I know. He went thru a lot with me during these months. Things that a lot of couples would not make it thru. We realized at the end of it after finally praying it thru that I needed to talk to someone. That someone helped me to realize that I was suffering from postpartum and I was digging a deep hole that I needed help to climb out of. This time also allowed me to reflect on my true calling. To finally take a step back and realize that I needed a new path. That as I was growing as a woman, a wife and a mother that God was placing BIG plans on my heart that I was scared to follow. I thank Him daily now for continuing to speak those truths into my life. He did not give up on me and I needed that more than ever. God is my peace, God is my provider, God is my portion. I can fully say after this time that I trust in Him and Him alone….He makes me who I am. He makes me strong. He has given me a leader of a husband, blessed me with an angel baby, and we are good. Our life is good. Anxiety, depression, thoughts that the enemy places in my way will no longer have a stronghold. God is over all of those worries and He is in control.
September….ahhhh fall!!! A time of change….for certain!
Leaves turning, colors changing, my heart stirring stronger than I have ever felt. A rewewed energy, a clearing of the fogginess, a light at the end of the tunnel. A growing healthy child….happy, laughing, saying mama, becoming independent, joyous little boy.
A new found love for Adam. Respect and trust. No fear or anxiety. Look what we have created together. Look at all we have ahead. This is an exciting time! 
Health wise was a bit scary-Liam was hospitalized for an eye infection called Orbital Cellulitis but was luckily all healed up pretty fast. I end up in the hospital ER one night for a stomach bug. But Adam’s health is great because of Remicade-continued treatments that help his joints and stomach condition. Loving his new job! An amazing teacher, soon to be coach, leader of FCA for his high school. I have never been prouder of him than I am right now. He’s becoming a wonderful man of God right before my eyes. God is turning something in him too….I can see it everyday!
October-we have a 6 month old! Liam has surgery for a small birth defect….comes out okay and is just perfect!  Halloween, holidays upon us, cold nights, cozy Saturday’s, Farmer’s Market, time with family. And the talk of a new career. Possibilities are endless. I am not afraid. I am stepping out…I am taking a leap of faith for the first time in my life. I am trusting God to open doors.
November….Thanksgiving in Charlotte, dear friends, close neighborhood, The Hamilton’s, The Ward’s and The Loeffler’s-truly God’s gift in our lives. These are amazing people and we are so lucky! Liam is growing like a weed. Eating solids, starting to crawl, laughter all the time, Da-Da, Ma-Ma, standing up with support, playing with his puppies, a cuddlebug.
December….Here we are….whew what a year! We made it. We are healthy, happy and better than ever! Liam’s 1st Christmas is coming!!! Family will be here. God opened doors and I start my new job on December 9th. I will be with people…where my heart longs to be. God has provided. Even when we strayed He has stayed. Here is to 2011….I am not afraid, I am happier than I have ever been. I am one blessed girl. Bring it on!!! 

Sunday, October 17, 2010

The pumpkin patch.....

Liam,
This week Daddy and I got you all dressed up in your "my first Halloween" outfit and took you on an adventure.
Near our house, there is a magical place called Hodges Dairy Farm. Everyday that mommy goes to work she gets to drive by this place and anxiously await each season change as they always have the most wonderful events depending on the time of year. The farm is HUGE....acres after acres of sunflower fields, a big red barn, an old farm house, horses, cows, chickens, pigs, goats, fresh vegetables. This is mommy's favorite time of year there because they have a pumpkin patch that is available to visit 7 days a week during the entire month of October. They have pony rides, a petting zoo and fresh mums the size of bushes. It was the perfect fall day....crisp air, bright blue skies without a cloud in sight so we set out on an adventure to introduce you to the world of pumpkins and all things fall.....You were amazed!

You wanted to touch everything in sight...you squealed in delight as you saw your first pumpkin....your laughter was infectious...Daddy and I just marveled over watching your mind working a mile a minute. We captured the moments in photos but I will never forget your first fall...that first vision you had of a holiday and what it means to celebrate something with family. I love you my little punkin.....I have a feeling fall is going to be your season!

Monday, September 13, 2010

Liam at 5 months.....



Punkin-
You are now 5 months old…..I know I say it all the time but words just can’t express how fast this time is passing. One day you’re so dependent on me for everything and the next you’re holding your own bottle and finding your own way to entertain yourself in the mornings as mommy gets ready for work. This really is a special time my little man…The fall is coming….I can feel it….I wish you realized just what this means but one day it will all make sense. Just know that mommy and daddy are super excited to share this time of year with you. Fall means change… Fall means color….crunchy leaves underfoot….warm cozies to bed…..slippers on your feet…..hot cocoa around a fire with friends….Football……warm chili on a cool day…..snuggling under a blanket…crisp nights and cool mornings…..lightweight coats…..trips to the mountains… pumpkin patch…pumpkin bread….sweaters….scarves….static in your hair….pumpkin spice anything…smell of homemade goodies throughout the house…football……..wait did I already say that? Football? Oh yeah that is the most important!! We are a football family son….Daddy is a Raiders fan and one day that will become all very clear to you and it’s meaning and Mommy is a Panthers fan……Some of our best memories revolve around football, around fall weather, around lazy Sundays on the couch snuggled up together under a blanket….and now, for the first time, you get to experience it all with us. We can’t wait to watch you in this season…..I have a feeling you’re going to be a fall loving baby…..you’re such a big snuggle bug already…..Plus, we’ve recently learned you just love squash-actually your new favorite food….so you’re speaking right to mommy’s heart….I see lots of yummy squash casserole being shared between us….daddy doesn’t like it so much but we’ll eat it a lot! You’re doing great in daycare….sleeping well, playing well and just an overall happy kid. You love green beans, peas, squash, pears, banana and peaches. You are eating oatmeal twice a day and you still love showers before bed. Your favorite toy right now is anything that is soft-because EVERYTHING is going into your mouth-so you like to chew on it or throw it and pick it back up. You think daddy is so funny. Your laugh is infectious and beautiful. You’ve started scooting like crazy and your butt shoots up in the air like you want to push off to crawl and then it falls back down….You’re so close….we’re gonna have a mover on our hands in no time! You’re growing like a weed…I can barely keep you in 6 months clothes right now.
And years from now when you read this and understand it…. Daddy and I just want you to know that we love you…..you’ll always be loved….you are amazing…you are funny…you are the sunshine in our days….and you have changed our lives for the better. We love you little man!

Saturday, August 21, 2010

Liam at 4 months

Baby boy....
you're changing every day right in front of our face.....you're getting so big and starting to grow further and further from our little newborn. I think this is our favorite time with you so far....you are funny, you have a personality, you are all smiles, a happy child to say the least, you love your daddy with all of your heart and think he is the funniest thing you've ever seen and you like to cuddle with mommy and bury your face on my shoulder when you first meet someone because you're bashful. At your four month appointment, you weighed 16 lbs 10.5 ounces and were 25.75 inches long. You're in the 75th-90th percentile for height, weight and head size. Dr. McDowell gave us the "ok" to start you on solids and you are taking to them wonderfully. Rice cereal is not your favorite but you love oatmeal. So far we've also introduced green peas, squash and green beans and you've liked all of them! Mommy is determined you will be a fruit and veggie eater so as you get older we can go to the farmers market on the weekends and pick out yummy foods to share. You love tummy time and are scooting your way across the floor....you'll be crawling in no time! You've also started daycare at Presbyterian CDC! You are in the Bears class and your teachers are Mrs. Tina and Mrs. Star.....So far you like playing bubbles and reading books there and are starting to learn to finally sleep in a crib.

You've also discovered Buster and Maggie recently....You think it's so funny when Maggie comes to give you kisses and you watch them play for long periods at a time. You've started reaching for them to touch their faces and you laugh at them when they are near you. Your favorite toy is a red square teething ring....you are grasping it with both hands and you love to just hold it while you sit in your bumbo seat and look around.
You are growing so fast punkin.....Daddy and Mommy are amazed at how fast you've changed and how much you've grown. We can't wait to watch you learn to sit up soon and start crawling.
We love you baby boy! You are a true gift from God.

Sunday, August 1, 2010

Absence makes the heart grow fonder....

It has been a whirlwind few weeks at the Phillips house and I have a ton to blog about but I want to take a second today to focus on my husband.
Last year, Adam decided he'd been in engineering long enough and wanted to follow his passion.....he became a teacher and busted his butt to get it done! I've never seen someone so determined.....I have never been more proud of him.

Today, he left for Duke University for 2 full weeks.....the longest we've ever been apart in our 7 years together.....the hardest thing I've ever had to do....watch him say goodbye to not only me but to Liam knowing he wouldn't see his baby boy for 2 full weeks at such a young age. He is there for training for the upcoming school year-2 intense weeks-full 8 hour days of non stop classes and labs just to learn what he'll teach his kids this year. I am so very proud of him.....sad for me because he's my best friend and I never want to leave his side but so proud of all he's doing and his hard work.
I am of course teary eyed as I write this.....I will miss his laugh and his smiles when I get home after a long day at work....I will miss watching him with Liam and how wonderful he is.
I want to take this chance to thank him.....for the sacrifices he made while I was pregnant, on bed rest and as  as he stayed home this summer on his "vacation" and played not only daddy but house husband as well. He has stepped up to the plate while I had to return to work and I have never seen someone give so sacrificially of his time and energy. Adam, you are a blessing to us...Liam and I will be okay here without you but we don't want you to think for a second that we don't miss you. Thank you for leading this family, thank you for working so hard to provide....we can't wait for you to return so we can spend the 2nd half of this year together....just the 3 of us.....for the next phase....a new school year and a baby boy watching his daddy lead others....a wonderful example you set for our son....He is lucky to have you as a daddy and I am blessed to call you husband and best friend.

 Rock your training honey.....you were meant to do this! God gave you an amazing gift....run with those talents and don't look back!
I love you so very much and I'm counting down the days!

Wednesday, July 7, 2010

where has the time gone.....

baby boy you are 12 weeks old this week.....the last time I was able to write you were half this age and my how you have changed. You are curious of your surroundings, you are smiling now and it's gorgeous in every way, you are funny and you laugh at things and you think mommy and daddy are the greatest things since sliced bread. We are so in love with you little monkey....each day with you is a new adventure and we still pinch ourselves to realize that you are ours. At your last doctors appointment you were almost 16 pounds and had grown almost 2 1/2 inches. You are no longer in your newborn sized clothes and starting at 2 months you were already wearing things labeled 3-6 months. Your favorite toy is your pal, Mort the Monkey and your jungle gym play mat. You are starting to roll over and have definitely started the teething process. You are eating both formula and breast milk and still get up once a night for a few minutes of some quality quiet time with mommy. Daddy is home taking care of you this summer while mommy is back at work and he is doing such a good job. You love your bath time but even more so you love taking a shower....you get so excited when the water rushes over your head and you coo the whole time. Your little buddha belly, strong hands and deep blue eyes are breathtaking. Your favorite "tv show" is the ceiling fan and you could look up and around for hours if we'd let you. (mommy is secretly concerned you're doing damage to your neck...haa)
We are so blessed by you Liam! God truly knew what he was doing when he gave us you as a son....you are perfect in every way and we couldn't ask for a better baby. We can't wait to see where you take us next !
We love you punkin!

Thursday, June 3, 2010

6 weeks old....

You are six weeks old monkey! My have you changed in such a short amount of time. At your one month appointment we found out you had grown so much! You were 11 pounds and 22 inches long and Dr. McDowell says you are right on schedule and eating well. You even had your first shot....I think mommy was more scared than you but we all made it through okay! You have definitely started showing your personality as well. You are funny....you love ceiling fans, your monkey on your jungle gym and playing with mommy and daddy. Your newest trick is standing...we hold your arms but you are so strong that you push right up and get the most excited, accomplished look on your face when you reach the top of your stance. You sleep less during the day and are so active and holding your head up so well. You love the outdoors....as soon as we sit on our front porch at night you "coo" at everything and look mesmerized at your surroundings. Daddy and I sit and dream about all the things you could be when you grow up....you love thunderstorms...maybe a meteorologist? You love music....maybe a guitar player? who knows?
Over Memorial Day weekend, you and Mommy went on a road trip to Grammie and Grandpa's house in Cary. You did so well in the car and slept the whole drive there and the entire drive back. We had so much fun playing with Grandpa, Grammie and Uncle Pat and you even met some of your great aunts and uncles.
We are so blessed by you little man....you make us proud to be your mommy and daddy. We can't wait to watch you grow over this next month and we are anticipating smiling and laughing soon!
We love you Liam!

Friday, May 7, 2010

3 weeks....

Today Liam is 3 weeks old...sometimes I still stare at him in awe that he's even here....I can't believe we've been blessed with this angel. I even have thoughts sometimes like "how did one little fertilized egg the size of a pin head turn into these sweet little ears, this perfect little nose,etc." I can't wrap my head around his creation and I can't stop my heart from swelling beyond its borders with love for him. Sometimes it feels like he's always been with us and then I write he's only 3 weeks old today and it blows me away.
At three weeks, he's starting to finally get on a good schedule. He sleeps at 3-5 hour stretches just depending on his mood that day and he's eating like a champ. Breastfeeding is going incredibly well and I'm starting to get a little nervous about when I return to work that somehow it will mess that process up. Hopefully I can start to establish a schedule with that as well so when I do go back we have a smooth transition. He's also a very strong little boy already. Constantly gripping our fingers, kicking his legs and holding his head up a lot!
He makes the funniest faces and I keep thinking I see a smile creeping in when we "talk" to each other. I also love his songs...he sings....honestly he does....his cooing sounds like a song....the boy is starting his music career already! Makes a mama proud!
This weekend is Mother's Day.....I can't believe I can celebrate this holiday....I'm a mother...holy cow that sounds weird. I am so blessed to mother this child....I heard a great quote the other day.....That "children are not ours...they belong to God but that God chooses earthly guardians to watch over and teach his angels until He can care for them." I am so honored to be Liam's guardian, his mother, his cheerleader.....He is certainly my perfect angel, my monkey, my sweet baby, my son.